Have you ever noticed
that when somebody refers to themselves as a “lady”, it’s usually in a comparative context that judges other people for doing things that they choose not to?
“Because I was raised to be a lady, I don’t have premarital sex.”
“Because I’m a lady, I don’t raise my voice or curse or wear low-cut tops.”
I mean, honestly, good for you that you’ve got a set of standards and boundaries, but lady is a word that’s lost all meaning by this point. Unless you actually own a parasol or a collection of bone-china teacups, you don’t get to use that as a basis for comparison.
You’re not a Jane Austen character, and your choices aren’t the standard by which everyone else’s should be judged. Quit that.I call myself a lady all the time. “Lady-shaped person,” for example. Perhaps this is regional? I couldn’t say, obvs, since I don’t have experience with all regions. Ha ha! Anyway, IDK.
Mostly I mean “huh weird, I haven’t noticed that.”
Yarp. I just noticed a bit of slut-shaming today that involved the justification of “I’m a lady” followed by all manner of horrible implications, and I vented a bit of frustration. Didn’t mean to speak out of turn; it just seemed like a lame excuse for making somebody feel shitty.
OH GOD PLEASE JUST LOVE ME
XD nah, you’re fine! i was just a bit thinky and wobbly about it, which is pretty normal for me. because i am a huge nerdball.
